I have never known when or how to move on.

• Personally:  Don't know how to let go, even when I know there's nothing to salvage

Examples:  JR, GR, DT - pretty much every major relationship I've ever been in (except for TR, that one was just about right)

• Professionally:  Don't have the confidence to start on the next step

Examples:  Same stagnant feeling and extreme intimidation leaving SAU, UTA, and CAH

Signs that it's time to move on

1.  Feeling of detachment and non-engagement

Even if other things fill that void, recognize this EARLY.  Don't wait until your reserves of strength and confidence are so zapped that you're overcome with depression and learned helplessness.  This is the worst time to go job hunting or venture on into life alone!

2.  Fundamental lack of understanding

This doesn't mean that you're not smart enough of that you've failed, people and organizations constantly move in different directions.  It's ok if my direction isn't the same.

3.  False starts

Follow your instincts!  I have a pattern of trying to leave various kinds of unfulfilling situations and changing my mind / giving up and coming back.  Realize that nothing is forever, so don't worry if the next chosen step isn't exactly what you were looking for, either.

Examples:  Leaving PS for that telemarketing position (that really did suck), JR, GR, DT,

What may have influenced the development of this personality trait?

Coping mechanism: 

Underachiever != accomplishing less than what society expects from you, it means doing less than what you expect from yourself.

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